Unblock. Block. Unblock. Block. Girl, Let’s Talk!
- Taylor Bennett
- Feb 21
- 4 min read
If you’ve ever sat in meditation, trying to clear your energy, only for his name to pop up in your mind like a glitch in the matrix—welcome to the club, sis. The block-unblock cycle isn’t just a phone feature; it’s a full-blown emotional addiction.
But let’s keep it real. At some point, the block button isn’t enough—you got to block access to your peace, your energy, and your future. So, let’s get into it. How do we actually break the cycle for good? Drop a ‘🚫’ if you’re DONE playing tug-of-war with your boundaries! 👇🏽
Why Do We Keep Attracting Toxic Partners?
Ahh… The question we love to ignore. And the truth is? It’s not just them—it’s us too. Cue dramatic gasp.
What Is a Toxic Partner?
Toxic partners aren’t just rude or annoying; they are emotionally draining, inconsistent, and sometimes downright manipulative. Whether it’s breadcrumbing, gaslighting, love bombing, or straight-up ghosting, these relationships thrive on instability. The problem? We get hooked on the chaos.
So if you find yourself constantly saying, “I know he’s not good for me, but…”—baby, let’s talk about why you’re still there.
Why You Keep Attracting the Same Type of Man
1. Unresolved Childhood Trauma
Your inner child is out here picking your partners, and she is NOT healed.
If you grew up in an environment where love was inconsistent, conditional, or emotionally unavailable, your brain will seek out those same patterns in adulthood. That’s why you keep chasing men who make you prove your worth.
But newsflash: Healthy love doesn’t make you earn it.
2. Low Self-Worth
The way you let people treat you is a direct reflection of what you believe you deserve. If you don’t feel worthy of healthy love, you’ll settle for toxicity. Period.
This is why self-love isn’t just a cute concept—it’s the foundation of everything. When you truly love yourself, you stop entertaining nonsense.
3. The Thrill of the Chase
Let’s be honest—some of y’all love a challenge.
If a man is emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or just straight-up trash, your brain goes into survival mode: MUST MAKE HIM LOVE ME. But what you think is chemistry is really trauma bonding.
A real relationship doesn’t require you to convince someone to treat you right.
4. Codependency
If your self-worth is tied to how much you can fix or heal a man, congratulations—you’ve just signed up for a lifetime subscription to Toxic Relationships Monthly.
But listen, Queen: You are not his mother, his therapist, or his emotional rehab center. You deserve a partner, not a project.
5. Because You Entertain It
Whew. Let’s sit with this one.
The moment you let a toxic person back into your space, you send a message to the universe: “I’m okay with this.” And the universe? She delivers accordingly.
So if you keep getting the same lesson, it’s because you haven’t learned it yet.
How to Break the Cycle
1. Heal from Trauma
Therapy? Yes. Prayer? Absolutely. Inner work? Non-negotiable.
The truth is, if you don’t heal, you’ll just keep repeating the same cycles in different relationships. So take the time to heal before you hop into something new.
2. Build Your Self-Worth
Listen: A healed woman is dangerous. She doesn’t chase, she attracts. She doesn’t beg, she decides. She doesn’t tolerate disrespect, she walks away.
So, start treating yourself like the Queen you are. Set boundaries. Say no. Demand more. Because you deserve more.
3. Detox from Drama
If you think love has to be chaotic, unpredictable, or anxiety-inducing to be “real,” please reprogram your brain ASAP.
Healthy love is peaceful. It’s stable. It doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. Learn to find excitement in emotional security—not toxicity.
4. Work on Your Independence
Before you crave a man’s validation, learn how to validate yourself. Build a life that excites you, with or without a relationship.
The moment you stop seeking love from a place of need, you’ll attract it from a place of abundance.
5. Enforce Boundaries Like Your Life Depends on It (Because It Does)
No more “but he’s different this time.” No more “let’s just see where it goes.” No more “I miss him though…”
Girl. BLOCK, HEAL, AND PROSPER.
Final Thoughts
A man who truly loves and respects you will never put you in a position to question his intentions. If you constantly feel confused, drained, or undervalued, that’s your sign—it’s time to walk away.
So, if you’re ready to break the cycle, say it with me:
🚫 I choose peace over potential. 🚫 I choose love over lessons. 🚫 I choose ME.
Now drop that ‘🚫’ in the comments and let’s heal together. 💜✨
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